My daddy always called me fat although I have an thyroid problem that can make you gain weight an over active thyroid can do that. I went from and overactively thyroid which makes you loose weight to under active and my father said watch what you eat you get fat I was so insulted. I remember my dad saying if you get fat you have to leave until you loose the weight then you can come back since this time I have always thought I was fat. I been told how skinning i am but I doing not believe it cause of what my father said to me. I weigh 115 there aborts but my daddy has always called me fat. I remember him telling me if I get fat I will I will have to leave until I loose the weight it really hurt. I am 41 today from this day I really believe I'm fat cause of what my dad said. Dad was big on the outside not what was on the inside and from that time I felt ugly. If it was not the abuse then he called me stupid or ugly I was never pretty cause I was not like a model since when does size matter. It has taken me a long time to accept myself as I am everyone said I am thin, but I see myself as thin. It really was not just me he picked on all my family has been told the same thing. some of them dont care. One of the things that happened to me is if I lost weight that was never good enough he told me I had to loose more. I guess my dad did not like fat people, but to me they are beautiful if you look at there heart. God made each one of us in all different sizes and shapes what matters is do we know Jesus not anything else. All that matters is what God thinks and it does not matter if people think if you fat of not your heart is what matters that what God cares about. This is why I always believed I was ugly and had no self confidence in myself because of how dad treated me. I was told I never amount to anything. Well if people would look at the heart more like God intended then it would be a better world. God did not intend for us to be insulted, but have people say nice things about you, I know there are many of you women out there that struggle with this, I tell you this dont worry about your appearance but worry about you heart. It only matter what God thinks not your dad or mom. We are to respect are parents but dont take everything to heart. I believe that parents need to watch what they say to there children cause it can destroy them. It is not just parents either does God say you stupid or that you cant do this no one can do everything in this world. God did not make us that way. psalm 139: 13 For you created my inmost being: you knit me together in my mothers womb. 14 I praise you because I fearfully and wonderfully made: your works are wonderful I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in a secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, 16 your eyes saw my unformed body . All the days ordained for me were written in the book before one of them came to be. God does not call us fat or stupid he only cares what is in our heart and that if someone calls you fat or stupid dont listen to them. Only listen to what God thinks that's all that matters so rely on him and not worry what others think. One of the things dad wanted women to be like the ones you see on television. He wanted women really thin he after said you to fat cause my hips are to fat. he always was remarking this person was beautiful, but tell you the truth he was not that beautiful cause you see dad had pimples when he was young and his skin was winkle. He was a little heavy set so see what I saying he was not beautiful, but God saw my heart and knew how I want to help people that what God cares about not how a beautiful I am. just my heart and what I do for others. I weigh 115 and in 56 but remember God cares about you heart dont worry about your outer appearance accept yourself as God made you God bless you

Mary